How are we creating our own life?
Creating a healthy Ego
First step: Responsibility
The first step for creating a healthy Ego is taking responsibility for the quality of your own life. The readiness to take on responsibility is followed by a typical belief about who or what is creating your life. Is it yourself, outer circumstances or coincidence? Your belief about who or what is creating your life strongly affects what you tell yourself about the world you live in. How you react to challenges and what creates established patterns of behavior in certain situations, depends on the beliefs you have.
What do you think: Who or what creates your life? Who is responsible for the results in your life? Who or what are you referring to searching for answers or help when you’re facing a challenge? Who is in charge of the situation when things go downhill? Who gets the reward when everything goes great?
Assignment n.1 Write down ten events that happened in the past year. When you write them down next to each one write if you take responsibility for this event or not.
Are you taking responsibility for the quality of your life?
Some people have tendency to blame outer circumstances or coincidence for everything that is happening in their life. This way of thinking does not support our evolution because we cannot progress if we think that everything depends on others or if we think that the things in life simply happen beyond our influence.
Some people have tendency to take responsibility for whatever happens in their life. They think that they are responsible for the positive and for the negative situations in their life. This characteristic is useful for personal development, because the awareness of our own responsibility motivates us to seek answers and to strive towards evolution. However, we have to be careful not to take on the responsibility for the quality of the experience of others. We have to develop the wisdom to see the difference between what we can influence and what we cannot. The question of responsibility is not a question of blame. WE SHOULD NOT FEEL GUILTY BECAUSE WE HAVE FOUND OURSELVES IN SOME SITUATION, BUT WE MUST TAKE ON THE RESPONSIBILITY TO GET OUT OF IT.
Yes or no?
Am I responsible for the following situations?
I have not been given a paycheck for two months already
The bus was early and I missed it
I got in a fight with my boyfriend
A death occurred in my family
I am not responsible for not getting paid the past two months, but I am responsible for CHOOSING to work in a firm where they don’t pay their employees on time. I am not responsible for the bus taking off earlier than usual, but I am responsible for not getting to the bus stop ten minutes earlier. I am not responsible for the behavior of my partner, but I am responsible for choosing to be with him and for the way I am communicating with him. I am not responsible for someone dying, but I am responsible for how I handle it, for my reactions, behavior and emotions.
Our decisions are a result of our choices
It would be useful if you once again read what you have written as your list of events. Read once again the events that you weren’t ready to take the responsibility for. Maybe there is something in the event that happened that you can take responsibility for? It is important to understand that we are beings that have FREE WILL, that make decisions and take responsibility for them. When we come to understand this and take the responsibility for our behavior and for what is happening in our life, we can ask ourselves this question: How can I change my life for the better? And that is already the next step on our road to success.
Second step: Our thoughts
Our thoughts create our reality
If we think we can, we are right. If we think we can’t we are also right. If we think that people are evil and that the Earth is a hostile place to live in, we are right. If we think that Life is joyous and that the Universe is supporting us, again we are right. The quality of our perception of the world and life depends on our thoughts. Because we have already taken responsibility for the quality of our life and know that our thoughts create our realities, we can then ask ourselves what kind of thoughts are we thinking. Most of the people are for the greater part of the day focused on the outer world (doing some activities, they are mentally and physically active, in interaction with others…). Most often we are not aware of our thoughts while we are doing these activities. Our thought process is almost uninterrupted. I have proved this to myself by deciding to enter a bus and put on a stop watch and trying not to think for a certain amount of time. In the end I was thinking about how I am not thinking anything :)
Assignment n.2 Sit still in a comfortable place and look at a clock. Enter the void and observe how long will you stay in it without thoughts.
Get to know your thoughts
Since thoughts are so important in creating our reality it would be useful if we get to know them.
Assignment n.3 Sit down, relax and close your eyes. Start observing your thoughts. DON’T JUDGE THEM, DON’T ANALYZE THEM, DON’T THINK ABOUT THEM, JUST OBSERVE THEM.
What do you think about most of the time? What associations do you have? What emotions do your thoughts evoke? Do you have some physical reaction to them? Do they repeat and how often? Observe your thoughts for some time. Stop any activity you were doing and ask yourself what were you thinking at that moment. Repeat this until you get to know your thoughts well. Do you notice that the most persistent thoughts are the most present? That they are about a certain subject?
Develop the observer within you
For the ones who have enough practice in observing their thoughts and that are well aware of them, I have the following suggestion. Start developing the observer within yourself. That means, the ability to step away from your Ego self and observe some situations from a distance. The next time you talk to someone, try no to only be in the conversation or focused on that person, but become aware of yourself, your thoughts, emotions and reactions during the conversation, like you are standing besides and observing yourself and the other person. In this way we can come to know a lot about yourself. Getting to know your own thoughts is of big importance for personal development. To obtain permanent satisfaction, we must first develop the ability of introspection. We need to turn from the outer world into the internal world. We need to realize that everything that is happening in our lives depends on what is happening within us.
Assignment n.4 Sit in silence and intuitively put your hand on one part of your body. Now intuitively put the other hand on another part of the body. Feel how you are focused on both parts of the body at the same time and for some time (5min) stay that way. Now shift your focus on a third part of the body that you can imagine is located somewhere above your head. Hold the focus on all of the three parts feeling your whole body but at the same time being aware of the one that is observing this process and stay like this for some ten minutes more.
Where ever we go we take ourselves with us
I have seen far too many cases of girls going from one relationship to another, always attracting the same type of men that keep asking the same question: “Why is this always happening to me?“. There are people who change jobs and firms and keep coming across the same bad boss. Some even change countries and continents, running away from poverty but somehow it always catches up to them. Where ever we go, we take ourselves with us. We think the same way, we react the same way, we do things the same way and we expect different results! Our successes or failures are only a reflection of what is happening inside of us. I think it’s about time we stopped working on the consequences. It is a waste of energy. We should work on the cause. For starters, we should become aware of our thoughts and emotions and what we are attracting with them, and later on to change them and keep and nurture the ones that give us success, joy and prosperity.
Third step: The Law of Attraction
I suppose that most of you have already heard of the law of attraction, even if they believe it or not. For the ones that have not heard about it, here is a short explanation. It is a law that is very simple and it says that: That which is like unto itself is drawn. Which means we get what we emit: Love attracts love. Thoughts about success attract success. When we judge others, we attract judgment of others. A lot of books have been written about his subject, the whole “philosophy of success“ (how I like to call it) is based on this. The thoughts like, that our energy goes where our attention flows, that we attract what we think about, that our thoughts create our reality are all based on the law of attraction.
Probably the most known book (from which a movie was also made) that deals with this subject is: The Secret. The essence of the book is that we can attract what we want if we want it enough. The opinions about this are split, some say that they are persistent in wanting a certain partner, more money and a better job, but that their desires are not coming true. What is the problem then?
We don’t attract what we want, but what we are
The main characteristic of the Law of Attraction is that we don’t attract what we want, but we attract what we are. The energy we use for thinking we get from the emotions that are followed by our thoughts. If our thoughts are with love and compassion, aimed towards creation from pure intent, if we look at life with serenity, if we expect good from others, if we expect support from the Universe, that is what we are attracting. If we are by definition negative and full of fears and always worried about something, there is a greater possibility that we will attract exactly that. Negative people surround themselves with the same kind of people, the one’s that are afraid of a certain sickness, that constantly think about it and try to protect themselves from it are attracting that sickness even more, a person who is afraid of burglars and every night is dreading it, is attracting that experience right now. “Energy flows, where attention goes“. The Universe doesn’t make the difference between positive and negative thoughts. The energy flows spontaneously where there is more potential for it to manifest. The amount of energy determines our focus and the amount of attention we are giving to something, and the quality of the energy is determined by the emotions we are feeling.
When the law of attractions is not “working”?
My experience with the law of attraction is that it’s working perfectly. Everything I needed appeared in the right time. Sometimes it was something that I didn’t want and what I considered negative and later on it turned out to be a necessary experience that have lead me to something much more important. When we think that the law of attraction is not working we need to ask ourselves why and find the reason for it. The most frequent reason we attract “bad“ things in our life and “wrong“ people is because our beliefs and programs are the one’s creating our mindset towards ourselves, others and life, which creates our patterns of behavior and reactions of which we are most often not even aware of and which we don’t even question but treat as absolute truth. Also, all of our emotions create for us, the one’s we are aware and the one’s we are not aware of. Bringing awareness to our beliefs and emotions that follow them, we become aware of why we create events, circumstance and situations. By releasing them we automatically change the results. That is how we start to create a lot more beauty and joy in our life.
Fourth step: Beliefs and programs
Everything that is happening around us we are interpreting based on the experiences we already have. Based on these experiences we have gained the programs that in advance present our thinking, feelings, and reactions. If we don’t directly have an experience of something we call upon the beliefs that we have about it. So, beliefs can be formed as absolute truths taken from different morphic fields (parents, ancestors, collective unconsciousness). They can also be “truths“ that we have adopted on our own based on certain situations that were interpreted according to the level of consciousness that we had at the moment the situation happened. If at that moment certain resources weren’t available to us that would help us get through that experience without any consequences, emotional trauma and fear would be formed then and every time after the same reaction would be activated automatically until the knot is resolved, the captured emotional energy freed and the beliefs on the mental level changed.
How were our base beliefs created?
According to the teachings of Theta Healing we can divide beliefs into four categories according to the level on which they were formed, which include basic level, genetic level, historic level and Soul level.
The basic level presents the fetal period and the period from birth until the present day. These are beliefs that we have adopted while observing how our parents were treating each other and other people, how they react to circumstances and situations. If our parents are arguing it is very probable that we will come to believe that love is pain and that if I love someone I have to hurt him or be hurt. Emotions and trauma are often vibrationally transferred to the fetus during pregnancy. If the mother is during pregnancy abused and rejected, the baby can come to believe that life is dangerous, that it is worthless and that it deserves to be abused.
Genetic level includes programs and memory from the morphic field of the family we are born into, programs from our ancestors and information from the morphic field around DNA. It is considered that we carry information from up to seven generations of our ancestors. An example of these beliefs is that life of a farmer is hard, beliefs associated with scarcity, poverty, lack, hunger, patriarchal beliefs associated to the position of the woman in the family e.g. that the women has to sacrifice herself to be loved or to be considered as a good mother, that she has to satisfy the needs of her husband (man)…
The historical level includes the field of the collective unconsciousness of mankind i.e. the field where the experience of the whole humankind from different time and space can be found. These are the beliefs that have been confirmed many times by people and have been memorized in the morphic field of humankind and which people perceive as absolute truth. Some examples of the historical level of beliefs is that people are dangerous, some illnesses e.g. cancer and diabetes are incurable, the human body is mortal, people have to age… These programs are most often found in other levels also, but were most likely conceived first on the historical level and later on transferred to the basic and genetic level.
The deepest level of beliefs are on the Soul level. Considering that the Soul, like everything else in the Universe is in a state of constant development there are beliefs that are even carried on this level. They were conceived in different realities and circumstances and they represent the most intense and deepest traumatic experiences of the Soul, that left a deep mark on how the Soul perceives itself and the whole creation. These beliefs can be various e.g. I have to be punished, I don’t deserve love, I am someone’s ownership, there is not enough… Beliefs from this level are most certainly transferred on the rest of the three levels and manifest in our lives to be resolved. The resolving of the beliefs on the Soul level can bring a big evolutionary progress and represent the deepest desire of the Soul. That is why it will persistently create situations in life where it will manifest programs with a goal for them to be resolved and for the karmic knots, that are preventing it from further progress, to be closed.
We reject all the information that is not in alignment with our beliefs
Most often we are not aware of our programs and beliefs. They are thoughts that are grouped together and automatically activated, that hold judgment about ourselves and others and define certain situations and predict outcomes. The problem is that they completely ignore the current inflow of information and they interpret new information as old. They block every new information that confronts it and they lead to an automatic reaction and to a pattern of behavior that repeats itself over and over again. Here we have a few examples:
-After a few failed relationships I have adopted a belief that I am a magnet for fools and that all the normal men are taken
-I keep a distance from other people because my parents have thought me that I should not take treats from people I consider dangerous
-I reject money from my life because my grandfather told me that everything that is material is bad and that money spoils people so I have come to believe that I cannot be good and have money at the same time
We are puppets in the hands of our own beliefs
Beliefs are the ones controlling our life in the most literal sense. We don’t have free will and we cannot understand ourselves, our behavior and reactions until we become aware of our beliefs. We are only puppets in the hands of our own outdated and dysfunctional programs and opinions. The biggest obstacles towards our path to success is that we consider our beliefs as absolute truths and that we automatically dismiss everything that doesn’t align with them. We stay in our comfort zone sticking to our structure. Some even support us with a viewpoint: “I am that way and I cannot change myself.“ I don’t agree with them. I have changed myself and I continue to do so. And there is a lot of work that awaits me. However, that is ok also. Working on yourself is a lifetime process. Up until now I have been shaped by my parents, authority figures, media, friends… Now I shape myself, I consciously break down old programs and form new ones, more functional viewpoints. The way we think has lead us where we are now. If we want to change things in our life, we have to start thinking differently.
Our beliefs block the Law of Attraction
The second most important thing is that our dysfunctional beliefs block or interfere with is the law of attraction, in manifesting our wishes and attracting anbudance into our life. E.g. if we want success but believe that successful people are evil and think we don’t deserve success, or that in Serbia we can’t achieve success, our wishes and goals aren’t in alignment with our beliefs. WE CAN ONLY ACHIEVE THOSE GOALS THAT ARE IN TUNE WITH OUR BELIEFS. This is the most common reason why the law of attraction isn’t working or working “wrongly“. Here are a few examples:
-I persistently want a partner. However, my father was really aggressive towards my mother, so I have concluded that relationships are full of pain. Because of this I attract aggressive partners that will inflict pain because it corresponds to my belief : “Love in relationships brings pain.“
-I want a job. I look at the ads, but skip the companies that are “out of my reach“. I think: “There is no chance for them to accept me, I don’t have enough of experience, or they only accept people through connections.“ The consequence of this kind of thinking is that I attract the job that is in tune with the opinion I have about myself and my abilities (which in this case is very low) in a average company, with colleagues that do not respect my contribution and effort and where I cannot accomplish all of my potential.
Our beliefs have to be in tune with our goals
We want friends but think that people are selfish and malicious. We want a fulfilling relationship but think men are only out for themselves, that they don’t want to commit and only think about sex. We want to be rich but think that we are not worthy of money or that money is bad and that rich people are mean. We want success but we “know“ that successful women stay alone and have to give up having a family because of their career. Because of all of these beliefs we send the Universe confusing messages. For us to be accomplished and for us to manifest our goals, OUR BELIEFS HAVE TO BE COMPLETELY IN TUNE WITH WANT TO CREATE.
The most common beliefs and how to recognize them
Now that we have realized the importance of our beliefs and that they are the ones creating our reality, it would be good to learn how to recognize them. The following questions are usually used in Theta Healing for revealing our base beliefs and releasing the emotional charge that is associated with the situation that we want to transform and the emotional charge we want to release. This presents a deeper kind of work on yourself and your structure and should only be done by those who are ready to be absolutely honest with themselves, to take on the responsibility for their results and bring change into their life.
Question to get to know your beliefs
We can think of some situation that has caused us fear, unsatisfaction, stress, tension, sadness or whatever emotions that is burdening us. We have to ask ourselves a few questions. Here are the same questions given in two examples:
1.How did I behave in the mentioned situation?
Ex. 1 My boyfriend and I got into a fight. I wanted to go to the movies however he was tired and he turned me down. I started to cry and yell at him that it always has to be his way, that we don’t see each other enough and that he doesn’t give me enough attention.
Ex.2 I got fired. When I found that out I simply froze, without any discussion I got out of the office and went home.
2. How did I feel in the mentioned situation?
Ex.1 I feel unloved, I feel I am not worthy of his love and attention, that my needs aren’t fulfilled, I feel rejected.
Ex.2 I feel worthless, unappreciated, rejected, in panic because I don’t have an income anymore, my confidence has been rocked, I judge myself and feel incompetent.
3.What are my beliefs that make me feel this way?
Ex.1 I am not worthy of love, attention, other peoples time and money. Other people don’t want to fulfill my needs. Other people are evil. Men are selfish.
Ex.2 I am incompetent. I am worth only when I do something good. I can only count on myself. I don’t have any influence on the decisions of others. I am not good enough. I am unworthy.
4.When did I feel like this for the first time?
Ex.1 The first time I felt I am not worthy of other s people love and attention was when my father didn’t want to play with me, and he never bought me the doll I wanted so I concluded that I am not worth the money also. During his marriage my father only fulfilled his own needs from what I concluded that men are selfish.
Ex.2 During school my math professor called me out infront of the class and made fun of me because I didn’t know how to do a math problem and it made me feel incompetent. My grandfather used to always praise my achievements only, but never praised me as a person. That is why I only love and appreciate myself only when I do something good, otherwise I feel unworthy. My opinion was never taken into consideration in my family, that is how I concluded that I don’t have any influence on others.
5.What is my longing/yearning?
Ex.1 I long to be loved, to get attention and my needs fulfilled.
Ex.2 I long to feel like a worthy human being, regardless of my actions, for my effort and work to be appreciated, to love and respect myself, to create something worthy.
6.What is my essence?
Ex.1 I am a human being that wants to exchange love.
Ex.2 I am a human being that wants to create.
On these above mentioned questions you should answer in writing. If you are doing them orally you should write them out on six pieces of paper, line them up on the floor backwards from 1. to 6. on a certain distance, and answer them LOUDLY, while standing on them. If we are doing this exercise alone we should record it so we could listen to the answers later and get an objective view about our beliefs.
If we answered honestly the above mentioned question we will come to know through different situations the structure of our beliefs. There are other signs on we should pay attention to. If we feel and echo in our body during some activity (heart palpitations, fast pulse, sweating, pressure in the chest…) we should stop and ask ourselves what is our body telling us.
E.g. We keep convincing ourselves that we don’t have stage fright, but directly before holding a presentation we start sweating. It is not important what we tell ourselves about somebody or some situation (our beliefs cannot check themselves) but it is important how our body reacts. Every bodily sensation tells us that some problem exists and it would be good to go over the previously mentioned questions about that subject and find the obstacle.
The problem is not the event but our reaction to it.
The other sign of our beliefs is our unexpected reaction about something that is followed by a strong emotion. Ex. One of my colleagues says to me that I didn’t write a document well and she is making fun of me because of it, I furiously storm out of the office and angrily shut the door; or my child tells me I am stupid and that I don’t know anything about cell phones, so I get insulted and start convincing him and showing him everything I know. In my case there is one rule that is true without exception : I react to some subject or I feel bad about something only when I have beliefes about it. This is really important and functions without any exceptions. So, whenever I feel insulted about someones behavior, angry or hurt or some situations throws me off balance, I stop and ask myself the previously mentioned questions. The problem is not the situation but our reaction to it. The situations and people are neutral, our interpretation of them is what creates our reality, a way we interpret them is based on our programs and beliefs that we have acquired in the past.
If you have recognized some of your beliefs, it would be good to write them down. If you are not sure if something is truly your belief and if it fits your core structure say it out loud. You are not sure you think you are capable. Stand up and say it out loud. Say : “I am capable.“ How does it sound what you said? Insecure or confident? Does it sound like you believe in it or like you don’t believe in your own statement? Does your voice shake? What kind of echo you have in your body? What is your pulse, is it stronger and faster than usual? Your breathing? Do you feel a heaviness in your chest, nausea, are you sweating? Look at yourself in the mirror: What is your expression on your face? Tense or relaxed? Does some emotion come up? Sadness, irritability, nervousness… If any intense reaction shows up in the body, the answer is of lower vibrations which means that the negative belief is present and that the positive belief is absent (depending on the statement). When the body is calm and relaxed, breathing and pulse is normal, facial expression relaxed you get the confirmation of the positive statement you said. Like the saying goes : “If the goat lies, the horn doesn’t.“
Now that you are sure what your negative beliefs are, write them down. Write down the negative beliefs about yourself and the consequences they have caused in your life. Then, write down the negative beliefs about other people, life, outer circumstances (money, men/women, marriage, work, your country, the nation…).
Then think about the following questions: If all of these negative beliefs could all of a sudden disappear, how would you react in the situations that you mentioned? How would you think, how would you feel, how would you act? What would be the results in your life? How would your life generally look like? Now write down your positive beliefs also and the results they caused in your life.
Examples of negative and positive beliefs and their consequences
I am not worthy of love, I am not good enough, I am ugly, I am lazy, slow, clumsy… ( because of this I have a desperate need for others to love me, the support of others is a necessity, there always has to be someone who has to give me compliments, I postpone my obligations, things fall out of my hand, I lose things). Life is suffering, struggle, pointless, hard… (because of this everything in my life goes hard, I always keep fighting and struggling for something, I don’t have a vision, mission and goals and I feel depressed). Money is dirty, rich people are evil, I can’t have love and money… (I reject money from my life, I am not payed enough for my job, I am always in scarcity). Sex is bad, immoral, a woman is easy if she wants sex… ( I avoid sex, if I enjoy it I feel guilty). Men are selfish, rough, insensitive and marriage is suffering, pain and hurt ( I choose a man that is selfish, rough and insensitive and create a marriage of pain and suffering).
Positive beliefs can be: I am worthy even when I make mistakes (the mistakes I make I accept as a part of the process of learning and I always have self confidence). I am capable and charismatic (others perceive me this way). Life is joy and I have mastered the ease of living (I am optimistic and positive, I solve problems with ease). I live in abundance (I am grateful for everything that I have and I attract even more abundance into my life). Marriage brings joy into the mutual lives of two fulfilled and satisfied people ( I choose a marriage just like this).
It would be interesting if we could look at the list now. What beliefs do we have more: positive or negative? In my case there were a lot more negative ones. Why? Because more than 80% of the information that the child receives is negative: be careful NOT to fall, DON’T talk to strangers, DON’T touch that, DON’T drink alcohol, try drugs, DON’T go alone home… On all of this more direct messages from parents could be added: you are lazy, stubborn, disobedient, clumsy, stupid, bad, boring and indirect messages based on which children make certain negative conclusions (the parent always criticizing the child, the children making fun of them because of old sneakers and for a “rubbish“ phone, the first girl they were in love rejected them, their favorite grandmother died…) and in the end the fears and negative beliefs of our parents which the children automatically take on themselves. When we add all of this up, we get a pretty big negative baggage with which we go out into the world.
Our strongest negative belief that we have is about ourselves
Now we should define our strongest negative belief we have about ourselves. There is no need to write it, just to define it. I think that for most people it is the belief that we are not good enough, that we are not worthy… and that we are not worthy of love. This negative belief we have about ourselves is our biggest block on our way to self-development. How can I love myself if I am not worthy of love? How can others love me if I don’t love myself? How can I have confidence if I am not worthy or good enough? How can others see me as capable if I don’t have confidence? How can I reach my goals without confidence and faith in my own abilities?
When we become aware of our beliefs it becomes clear to us why we are where we are now
When we write down all the events and people that have created our beliefs, we start becoming conscious of our patterns of behavior and to understand our reactions. It is as if all of a sudden we were given a map of ourselves that shows us why we are where we are now and what we need to change if we want to get somewhere else. For me this process was a phenomenal journey. Painful but fulfilling at the same time. Painful because I could no longer blame others (parents, partners, professors, my boss, the country, life…) for my reactions and choices. Fulfilling because the awareness of my own programs and beliefs has lead me to taking responsibility for my life. That gave me the feeling of free will and connecton with my authentic personality, which made me a step closer to my purpose and to a much more joyful and fulfilled life.
How can we change our negative beliefs?
We have now come to a point where we know what people and events have formed us and we know that we want to change some of our beliefs because they are blocking our development. The question now is: How can we do that? How can I change something that is already X years with me (usually the number of years is counted in decades)? Fulfillment is predetermined for people who have the courage to look themselves in the eyes, who want change, work on it, believe in success and don’t let fear stop them on their path. The same with the beliefs. The one who will change them is the one who can face them, who wants to change them, who works on it, who believes in success and doesn’t let their own fear get in the way.
Techniques for changing beliefs
There numerous techniques that are used for uninstalling negative programs and changing beliefs. I personally use Theta Healing, which in my case gave exceptional results. My goal here is to share with you techniques that are simple, effective and that can be done on your own.
First we have to free ourselves from the negative emotional charge
Take a look now at all of the events that you have written down that have formed some belief. What I have learned is that when we free ourselves from the “baggage“ of the events that have happened to us, the negative emotions that we have suppressed towards the people who have caused it, will make the mental picture that the belief is causing to weaken.
It looks like this: I sit and calm down. I close my eyes, empty my mind and connect with my Higher Self. I become my Higher Self, I radiate peace, love, compassion and wisdom. From that point of view I focus on the event I want to remember. When the event start to be alive, I observe it from the point of neutrality sending radiant light to my past self having the experience of the event. I heal all pain and suffering of my past self, I send unconditional love and acceptance to my past self and with golden light I protect his/her energy field from negativity of that event. We heal together mental, emotional, physical body and let go of all patterns from that event. When I come to the point of complete peace, I know that the process is finished.
Forgiving the others and ourselves we let go of the past
We can once again, sit down, close our eyes, relax and let go of our thoughts. We can visualize the person that hurt us in front of us and tell her words of forgiveness. We have to simply FEEL it. If we have truly forgiven her from our heart the words will flow naturally. When we have forgiven the other person we then visualize ourselves sitting in front of the mirror saying: I forgive you. We feel how forgiveness is filling our energy field. This fills us with peace and relief. We know we have forgiven when we remember the event and the participants while we remain in complete harmony and balance.
How changing belief is very simple-just instal new belief
When all the energy charge is emptied in the meditation we will just command negative beliefs to be deleted and we will install positive beliefs as affirmations: in present tense as very simple sentences. I love and respect myself. I know how to love myself…
All techniques used in transkript are for information about personal development only. They are not a replacement for any medic, psychological or psychiatric treatment. If you are on some professional therapy your duty is to consult with a professional about any spiritual practice as well as any personal development technique.